Want to know the 7 steps of overcoming low self-esteem? It all start’s with not giving rejection any space in your life. 

Imagine if the countdown to take off got to 4…3…2… and the astronaut who’s strapped in the rocket ready to fly into space says, “Houston, we have a problem. I can’t do this because I have low self-esteem from all the rejection I’ve experienced in my life.”

You may smile, but it’s how we talk to God all the time. When we give space to the rejection we’ve experienced in our lives, we self abort and sabotage our mission because rejection has caused us to lose our confidence. 

You’ve given so much space in your thinking to rejection that you’re now dealing with low self-esteem in every area in your life. To go on the mission God has for you my friend, you’ll need to get into a training program if you are to build up your confidence so you can become a great astronaut and fulfill the mission God has for you.     

Step 1. Get the right degree.

“When you’re in submission to His primary mission, you become commissioned,” – Kris Vallotton. Position yourself on your knees and ask God to forgive your self-doubt, self-talk, and self-loathing. Sometimes the person who rejects us the most is actually ourselves. God sees you as precious and chosen. Stop listening to the lies the enemy whispers to you.   

Step 2. Have great eyesight.

Isaiah 43:19 says, “Behold, I will do a new thing, now it shall spring forth; shall you not know it? I will make a road in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.” Come out of the wilderness of that dry, desolate planet named rejection and come into a new space. One that is full of life and light. Spiritual eyesight to “see” into your future is all that is required for 2020 vision!      

Step 3. Handle the pressure.

It was once said,“Pressure can burst a pipe, or pressure can make a diamond.” Are you going to let all those people who rejected you make you burst a pipe? Wasting your tears on them is space you don’t have time for anymore. Let the pressure make a diamond out you and show those naysayers how you twinkle, little star.

Step 4. Be tall. 

“That our sons may be as plants grown up in their youth; that our daughters may be as pillars, sculptured in palace style.” Psalm 144:12. We need to pass on our legacy of the mission to our children. Give them the confidence to be all God made them to be, and to remind them not to give any space to rejection in their lives. So stand tall and teach your children what you’ve learned and fought hard for.

Step 5. Cope with long-distance relationships.

“Nevertheless I tell you the truth. It is to your advantage that I go away; for if I do not go away, the Helper will not come to you; but if I depart, I will send Him to you.” John 15:7. Jesus sent the Holy Spirit to help us in our mission. We don’t need to feel like we have a long-distance relationship with Jesus because the Helper (Holy Spirit) is our mediator. Let Him mold and shape you as your confidence rises.  

Step 6. Clock 1,000 hours of jet pilot experience.

“Now this is the confidence that we have in him, that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us.” 1 John 5:14. Clocking up plenty of hours in prayer will boost your confidence. You’ll become a jet pilot in praying while gaining plenty of experience at the same time, so you can detect the enemy’s “bogies” who have a target on you. 

Step 7. Survive the ‘vomit comet’ 

“As a dog returns to his own vomit, so a fool repeats his folly.” Proverbs 26:11. Going back to the people who made you lose your confidence is not a wise move. You can forgive without hanging around the same people who just wanted to tear you down and see you fail. Find new friends who’ll boost your confidence. If you can survive the ‘vomit comet’ of people’s negative comments that spew out of their mouths and not let it bother you so much, then you’ve come a long way! 

Houston, we are good to go!” 

Wendy xo